“A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”- Proverbs 16:28 NLT
“Wrongdoers eagerly listen to gossip; liars pay close attention to slander.”- Proverbs 17:4 NLT
“A gossip goes around telling secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers.”- Proverbs 20:19 NLT
“I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”- Matthew 12:36-37
“Therefore, whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops.”-Luke 12:3
Can you share a situation where you have witnessed the damaging effects of gossip like those described in Proverbs 16:28?
- How would you define gossip?
Is a person’s motive important when it comes to gossip?
There are at least 3 parties involved in gossip; the speaker, the subject, and the listener.
- Does there always need to be malice intended?
- Does the veracity of what’s being said have anything to do with it?
At what point do we cross the line when sharing with those very close to us from being open and honest, to gossip?
- I think we most often point the finger at the speaker, but how often are we guilty of being the listener described in Proverbs 17:4?
- Can you share some techniques you’ve found helpful when you have encountered gossip, or been tempted to gossip?
“All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”-James 3:7-8
What can we learn from this passage in James?